Jumat, 26 Juli 2013

Spouse Abuse Stories Can Be Difficult To Understand

By Michael Obrien


Domestic violence has become something that modern day society has become familiar with. You hear spouse abuse stories through local media outlets, can read them online, and can personally speak to individuals that have their own stories to tell. Every year there are thousands of people that die as a result of domestic violence.

One of the primary questions that people ask, when they hear about someone that is being victimized is why the individual does not leave their abuser. This is a great question that gets a lot of conflicting answers. Unfortunately, most people that have been involved in abusive relationships, believe that they are the ones that are causing the abuse.

Usually, individuals that find themselves in a domestic violence situation, are in this type of situation, because the abuse did not start out physically. Typically, an abuser will work on breaking the person down mentally and emotionally, before they ever strike them. Once the individual has been beaten down mentally, that is when the physical attacks begin occurring.

By the time that the physical attacks start happening, the individual has already been beaten down to the point, where they feel like they are the ones that are responsible for what is happening to them. They have been driven to believe that they are receiving what they deserve. They start questioning what it is that they did wrong, to put themselves in the situation that they are in.

They try to envision their abuser in a positive light. They make excuses for their abuser, believing that one day they will change, or go back to the way that they used to be, prior to the abuse beginning. They are scared that if they are to leave their abuser, that no one else will want them.

In fact, there are a lot of people that are subjected to this type of treatment, that will stand up for the person that is abusing them. They try to see the abuser as a good person. They believe that if the individual is hurting them that they have done something to deserve the treatment they are receiving. It is kind of sick that anyone would think this way, but it is something that happens every single day.

Most victims find it difficult to escape an abusive relationship, because they do not have anyone else, but their abuser to help them. Typically, the abuser will insist that the victim cuts all of their ties that they have with other individuals in their lives. They will make the victim believe that they are alone, and that there is no one they can turn to.

It's hard for people to put themselves into the spouse abuse stories that they read or hear. However, regardless of how much an individual insists that this could never happen to them, the truth is, it happens to people just like them, every single day. Women and men can be subjected to this type of abuse. Your next door neighbor may be going through this abuse, and you would never know it.




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